Christian outlook on dating
As a result, Cindy developed a deeper understanding of truth, and Rob was forced to face the lies he’d always believed.If you’re like Cindy or Rob, and you’ve taken a stand for (or against) premarital sex, but you’re not sure why, here are some things to consider.When Cindy met Rob, she knew that even though he attended church, he didn’t share her convictions about premarital sex.Rob thought it was OK — and even good for dating couples to engage in — and Cindy believed it was wrong from a Christian perspective.While premarital sex does produce a short-lived chemical cocktail in the brain, there is no guarantee that it will produce long-term emotional closeness or relational satisfaction. Here’s why: If it was true that Rob wouldn’t struggle with comparison, why would he need to “test drive” anything?Rob told Cindy he felt it was unreasonable to expect him to abstain from sex before marriage because no one would buy a car without test driving it; so he couldn’t imagine committing to marriage without taking a “sex test drive.” When Cindy suggested to Rob that his “test drive” mentality could lead him to compare his wife’s sexual performance with his other partners, he denied it. After all, if he’d never had multiple partners, he would automatically think his wife the best.
It also forced them both to take a second look at their convictions.
“After all, when the scriptures were written, the people during that time got married when they were teens; so they didn’t have to struggle with sexual temptation like we do now.” In response to Rob’s argument, Cindy found verses about sexual purity and showed them to him. After all, we can just pick and choose the parts the Bible that we want to believe on sexual purity, right? For example, if sex before marriage is OK because people supposedly can’t control themselves, then it must be okay to engage in pornography, too, right?