Contemporary dating and courtship
In the self-centered world of secular dating, we want as much information as possible to ensure that the right decision is being made.
And if we can enjoy a little physical or emotional comfort along the way, great. The process just described is hurtful to the woman that the man purports to care about, not to mention to himself.
In a column about “working class lives,” he told of a clerk named Artie whose girlfriend was losing interest in him and beginning to see other men socially.
When Artie confronts his fading love, he says, “I s’pose the other boy’s fillin’ all my dates?
A man will court a particular woman because he believes it is possible that he could marry her, and the courtship is the process of discerning whether that belief is correct.
To the extent that the Bible addresses premarital relationships at all, it uses the language of men marrying and women being given in marriage. Selfishness is not what drives a Biblical marriage, and therefore should not be what drives a Biblical courtship.
In Biblical relationship, commitment precedes intimacy. Within this model, the man should follow the admonition in 1 Timothy 5:1-2 to treat all young woman to whom he is not married as sisters, with absolute purity.
In all these ways, a Biblical relationship looks difference from a worldly relationship. This information should assist families who are considering Harvest as a home for their student.
In Chicago, single women were known as “women adrift.” These circumstances gave birth to dating rituals and other unfortunate traditions that still remain — or, at least, still cause confusion as mores change — today.