Dating without a relationship
If he acts like going on dates is annoying to him more than once, that’s proof that he’s lazy.If he’s consistently doing anything that raises your yellow or red flag, then that’s proof that you should cut him off.
If you still buy into the Hollywood movie version of love where it conquers all, then brace yourself because you’re in for a rude awakening sooner or later. Are you truly a good girlfriend, or is it just hype and ego? You can’t rage against toxic behavior in one breath, then turn around and demand that a person embraces all the insecurities you refuse to work on just because it sounds romantic.That fear doesn’t protect you from users, the irony is that your closed off persona scares off decent men and pulls in the ones you’re running from.Manipulative men love to chase defensive and damaged women because they see through the front as a want to be loved.You’re not crazy, you’re not dramatic, you have a “gut feeling,” and you know something about this new guy doesn’t feel right, so the first moment he does something you don’t like, you fall back.
Earth to Basica—your gut instincts are so poorly calibrated from years of hyper-paranoia that you’re ruining a good thing!A man who is up to no good will show you via real actions that he’s up to no good.