I ve given up on dating
It’s not that I’ve been meeting terrible men (though...
), it’s really more about the fact that dating for me has held such an absence of excitement, fun, and actual desire that I truly no longer see it as a valid use of my time. I’ve done this dance too many times to fall for a witty text or two, I can promise you that.
The first whisper reads, "I gave up on dating and men all together.
Just date myself" They might even make you want to give up on dating altogether. 8 Tips for the Person Who Is About To Give Up On Love are supposed to make dating easier and more natural, it has had the opposite effect.
I don’t know how to date anymore, so I’ve stopped doing it. I don’t know how I’ll meet someone, but I know how I meet someone, and opening up my view of possibility from only being able to meet via dating to meeting via literally any possibility imaginable puts the excitement of being single right back where I want it — within me.
But since all I’ve got are a few text back-and-forths and the knowledge that the only reason this date is happening at all is because following two concurring right thumb swipes, I: a) suggested we meet, b) picked the day, c) picked the time, and d) picked the place, I can’t say I’m exactly overflowing with anticipation. Every time a man suggests a sexual encounter with with me via an app and I fire back that he has the manners of the fruit flies in my kitchen I’m always reassured of my own ignorance with one sentence: “You know what Tinder is, right? A woman gave me free Amaro when she brought me my check at a bar two nights ago, are we married now?