Not dating for years
but it's still frustrating to me, especially when he talks about how much he wants to get married too.
I wish so much that men still asked women to marry them when they know they want it, not just when all conditions are "right".
Ask why exactly he has set this timeline for himself when you've already been together for several years.
Have you discussed with him your reasons for wanting to get married? 24 is still quite young and I wouldn't blame anyone for wanting to wait.
In this situation I would shirk tradition and just propose, regardless of your gender. He accepts the proposal, gets married out of obligation? The variable is the fact that you two are living together already, so what is this hold up if you've already been doing the grown up thing for a year? Maybe you should set a time table and if things don't happen by then, make a decision and up to pulling the plug if need be.
Or perhaps one of the reasons that divorce rates are sky high is becausepeople don't wait for the right conditions?
After living with bone-crushing aloneness within that relationship for a decade, followed by months actively grieving that loss, I found myself ready for some companionship.
He is really my soul-mate and I am really excited to get married and have a family with him.... He says he wants to and is going to marry me, but I dont understand why he doesn't just ask me then.
It's taking the magic away out of starting a life together, especially if you've been living together for a long time already.
The only advice I can give you is to be patient with him, but talk to him and explain that you don't feel secure when year after year he says he will, and then nothing happens.
Also, I just have to say that if marriage is particularly important for someone then I don't think it's a good idea to indefinitely wait around for the other person to ask.
In this situation I would shirk tradition and just propose, regardless of your gender.
from what you describe, it sounds like he is going to, but you need to stop pestering him. him come home and throw a ring at you like "here's your damned ring! There isn't much you can do, but accept the fact that he truly isn't ready.