When your friend is dating a loser
We talked with some friends who have experienced this and shared their insights with us. Is the boyfriend or girlfriend a bad influence on your friend? Do you think your friend’s date is a bad influence?
If someone has a different set of values, or lifestyle choices, you may think your friend is doing harm to mind, body, or spirit.
Jeff weighs in, “My buddy’s girlfriend drives me crazy, but she is clueless about her overbearing personality.” Jeff wondered why his friend stuck with her, until he realized that his friend always needed to be in a relationship.
“She meets a need in his life, and there is nothing I can do to change that,” Jeff says, “so I just make the best of it when I’m with them.” As Hebrews says: “Make every effort to live in peace with everyone” (TNIV).
The truth is, when it comes to dating and relating, there really are very few black and white answers.
Many times the answers lie in the gray areas, and in the deeper questions. If you’re afraid this new romance will have a major effect on the relationship you have with your friend, you may feel confused, disappointed and frustrated. Figuring out where the dislike is coming from is a good place to start and it can help you know how to pray for the situation and respond to it.
I try to see the positive characteristics and minimize the negative.
“It’s frustrating when my friends date people who are not my choice for them in a million years,” says Sarah.